So Does Either Party Hold the Truth?

The answer to that is a resounding, “NO”. If we can’t find the truth in our own families how are we going to find the truth in politics? I write heavily on the side of the Democratic party simply because there are so many lies being spread against them. I doubt that, although I share their philosophy as a whole, that all of the Democrats elected are even aware of what their party stands for. Just ask the people of Nebraska about Ben Nelson’s representation of the Democratic Party and support for George Bush and voting along Republican lines.

I would not be married for 40 years to the man I love, who is Republican, if I did not respect him. Clearly his arguments are as sound as mind are. I become concern when I read all the right wing’s rhetoric that ties itself to the Republican Party and then frustrated that the general well being of our Country is being lost behind their onslaught of lies. Certainly one has grounds to say the same for individual members of the Democratic party.

That is my concern then that it no longer appears to be Democrats vs. Republicans but if we believe the Fox Network or the Christian Broadcast Networks or the internet then the Democrats are nothing more than left wing Liberals out to destroy America. Lets face it our 8 trillion dollar debt was able to grow in silence although reputable networks showed the massive debt ticking away on their networks. Even when the Republicans were in full control and causing the majority spending that led to the mess that we are in today, no one, was speaking up. It was not until George Bush came front and center and announced that the economy was in worse shape than what anyone knew and they were working towards bailing out the automobile industry, that word began spreading.

I try to be a fair person, but my common sense began bouncing off the wall at how quickly it went from the Republicans adding to this massive debt into being OBama’s fault for the whole thing. If all we ever hear is one voice and that is of the right-wing we should be concern. What in God’s name then is it that makes us believe it as though it is gospel?

Let’s face it, to be a politician takes an unique personality, in the first place. To begin with it is the only job in America that the employee has to buy the job. The same way that massive groups of Americans are moved by the charismatic personalities in their own families as well as the Evangelicals and the Fundamentalists ,especially, but all Churches in general attract members as a result of charismatic personalities, so do we the people elect our politicans.

The unfortunate truth is that the most competent people amongst us are not driven my the ego of our politicians. They have to believe that they know better than all the rest of us, how to solve the ills of society, not much different than the leaders of our churches and the family member that in a sense holds all of hostage. The salary is not enough to pay for their expenses once they get to Washington and with an over blown ego to begin with doesn’t it make sense that they could be persuaded with both special interests and cash shortages that it will be just this one time?

In order to live comfortably then as a politician, most need to be wealthy before they get to Washington. Since when did people that are accustomed to having their butts kissed, their meals picked up and people hired to do the monotous work, ever know what living in America entailed? Just to attend functions necessary to be able to network in Washington, itself, will not pay for a poor mans livelyhood. To think that any politician no matter how much that they convince us otherwise, is not part of Washington, is ludicrous!

The minute they do win the election, which required the beginning of the lies, as their campaign slogans should all read the same, “I am here to bullshit my way through until I win your vote,” they are hit with the influence of Washington. Have no doubts about it, in order to be able to run and win the elections, due to handlers and special interests, unless they have paid for their own campaigns, they have already made promises to special interest of some type.

This is not just a phenominal thing that happens in Washington. It exists in State and City elections as well. I am not neither against Religion or Republicans as both play a necessary as well as major place in our lives. No one wants a one party system. That is why only one State in the Union, has a uni-cameral, and that is Nebraska. To be Democrat and to live in the State means the only way a Democrat’s vote is going to win is if the Republicans approve of the candidate. So far the only Democrat president that has won their approval has been L.B. Johnson. That means generations of families that vote Democrat have never won a presidential election. None of us want that.

I myself would never had been able to survive the 30 plus years of pain that I have lived with if I did not believe in God, and without religion, I would have never known of His generosity, to me. Ask anybody that deals with people on a regular basis, in death and they will all tell you the same thing, “On the death bed there are no atheist”. Having held the hands of people that are dieing I have been puzzled as to why they continue to live following the death rattles, and it seems to be Universal, that when a person dies they need to be able to let go Spiritually as well as physically.

I do believe though, just as governments, have no right to interfer in religion that religion has no right to tie itself or it’s followers to government. Just as the choice of Church is ours the candidate also should be ours to choose. Unless those of us that are still left with a monicum of common sense, speak up against the lies of the right wing,who else will? One thing that we can all agree with is no one family member, church or politican is the holder of the truth so why do you all speak as they are?

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Good Example of Insanity!

The recent re-opening of the Tiger Woods scandal is the perfect example of the insanity that we live in. As much as we would like to blame the media, the truth is that we the public drives what the media reports.

The reason there was no sincerity in the apology made is because Tiger as well as those of us that still have our sanity, were more than satisfied in believing that Tiger was taking care of his private life, in the matter he chose to. It is only the interests of Accenture and other Corporate sponsors testing the waters of perceptions of the American public, before they make the final decision to drop him permanently, that reopened it. By now you all know what I think of that subject so I will give it a rest.

Why aren’t we as a public, much more upset by the inter-net,the Gerry Falwell’s, the Rush Limbaugh and Glen Beck types that constantly lie and have those lies fanned by the ill informed and under educated, taking everything they say as gospel? If anything in this Country should be pulling us together, it is that we all agree, that when the lies are told that competent media should point out the errors, but Isn’t it also our responsibility?

If we or the media does not stop these lies now, then who will we blame when the radio stations and television networks, sound no different than the airway propaganda in communistic societies, sound? Some days when you listen to their rant and raves, it does sound as though, we are already there. Who will determine when broadcasting has over stepped it’s, ‘truth in reporting’? Will we then insist that it stop by boycotting it’s sponsors, or since the Christian Broadcasting Network and Fox news carries them, boycotting both networks, and letting them know we are fed up, or will we still think it is the other guys’ problem? Part of it,I am sure, is nothing more than the arrogance of the media and the lack of direction orthe huge amount of apathy that some of us carry in ourselves, that exists today. Some people are just so use to having anyone but themselves, take care of or suffer the hardships of life, that they simply will never care!

I know the press argues that it is freedom of speech. I like many, think they simply are not as courageous at taking these, ‘sue happy’ individuals on, for fear of their loss of personal comfort, as their predecessors did. I also believe to a certain respect these type of lies are suiting the pocket book or wallet of the employer that hires them or perhaps the Sponsors. Individual or private ownership of news reporting, no longer exist in our country, so it is much more difficult to go against the establishment, when told to yank or stop production of the story, that does alert the public to “truth in reporting.”.

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Why Walking Away Can Be The Kindest Thing Of All!

Many of us stay with relationships thinking that we do not want to hurt someone else. In doing so, we only end up hurting those that are the closest to us. The people in our lives that truly do care about us.

I write this then to help the person or people that have tried absolutely everything, that they can think of, including counseling and sitting down and trying to talk to the person causing the pain, in their own lives, and the relationship still does not work.

No one on Earth was ever meant or intended to stay with a relationship that is both abusive or sells us short. One that leaves us feeling as a hypocrite, thinking less of ourselves, that is argumentative, and just in general leaves us feeling drained, stressed and unhappy.

Earlier I wrote about the cousin in my life who was both the drunk and the control freak. I didn’t tell you, that when she would tell me what we could and could not talk about, that the only conversations she was interested in was family gossip, geneology, weather and raising tomato plants. After about 7 years of these repeated conversations I had reached the point that I could no longer follow through on the conversations.There are those relationships that do get formed because they fill an interest or a need, but were never meant to last. That was one of them.

When I found myself, making excuses or lieing about not being here everytime this person called, as I said, I tried to e-mail in order to change the same repetetive conversations, and it only proved to be a greater mistake as she really lost control over me and what I talked about. It did become time to walk away. To stay only showed my children that it is o.k. to lie, by saying I wasn’t home or I was napping.

The longer we stay in these kinds of relationships they will ultimately end up blowing up in our face, anyway. I simply told her I enjoyed getting to know her but that I realized the misunderstandings were coming from the fact that the two of us had nothing in common and wished her well. Of course, that is the last thing that a person that needs to control wants. They are simply trying to get us back where they are more in control again.

What if it is a mother/father that did everything to turn her/his children against each other and now is trying to turn our children against us. I offer the same advice. Sometimes the only and best way to honor a Father and Mother, is to put distance between us This does not mean that the relationship has to end permanently. In my case I reached out time and time again, to only find out that the same sneaky behavior, now that she is older, is being played by my sister, her co-dependent. I will spare you all the details but I only use this as an example. There are any number of ways that parents can and do destroy an adult child’s happiness. I will always be grateful to her for my life and remember her on her birthday and Christmas, as I do truly love her, but putting distance between us, has become the only way that I can respect her.

As far as siblings go, I recommend the same thing. If you, yourself are not standing with your hand out to borrow money but they in return feel entitled to mooch, if they tell you they hold grudges but you have never done so, in your life, but they accuse you of being hateful,then at least acknowledge to yourself that they have a bad case of transference. I have yet to meet the person that does hold a grudge, that isn’t hateful to the object of their distain. There are truly people that can only look at reality, if they transfer their own negative behavior onto others, if you have a family member that has taken the truth and turned it into anything but the truth, and the lie is painful and you know this, do not ruin your own families’ life by remaining to argue with the sibling or siblings. Most are more interested in the arguement than they are with us, anyway.

Some people and families just agree to disagree and stay together by not talking about their childhood. This can work in families that do not enjoy particularly close relationships and are comfortable with that. It was the only thing that any of us had in common.

If you feel as I did, as I was very uncomfortable living this way. Then I would suggest that you do as I did and simply walk away. Arguing only makes a difficult situation worse, and again I repeat, that is what they want. They never get upset as they feel victorious while we feel both drained and hurt, and our families are left to deal with us. I send Christmas and birthday cards every so often. I remain friends with the members that do not live in denial. That are comfortable discussing our childhood, as it was, since we don’t hold grudges, and are able to laugh about some things, without turning it into apple pie and angels singing, when it never was. In the other instances telling them why, only made the matters worse as they are too far gone into judging and from reality for anything I say to make a difference. I tried to talk to them and all I got back was unfair accusations.

They love to argue as people living in denial find themselves doing a lot of this with people in general. People live in reality or should. In my case it is important for both my sanity and relationship with my husband and children. If you choose the route I did don’t beat yourself up over it. None of us should ever become comfortable with living our lives as a lie.

They may try everything, including blaming us for not leting Mom see their grandchildren, but our kids already know the truth and most, unless totally rebellious, will choose not to see Grandma because of the lack of respect shown to their mother/father. In my case, my daughters had to tell me that they were losing respect for me, because I would never let anyone, talk to them or treat them in that manner. I personally made a point to tell them when they were older to go see Grandma, and she was the last person they wanted to see. Yes I was unable to fool my family, when they themselves could sense and hear the pain that I was living.

The same is true of churches, groups or organizations. If you attend to find peace, or have been a member for life, and you are noticing that instead of finding the peace and enjoyment that you originally found ,or joined them for, and now it is totally different. Ask them their basis for their thinking and if it comes out the same answer from the entire group or the majority, and it is the answer that makes you doubt their reasoning, in the first place, then look elsewhere for the Church, group or organization that is more in keeping with your own belief. Some choose to take what they have learned and to live it, knowing that Christ and God, lives in all of us.

The Dear Lord put all of us here on earth to discover who we are and what our purpose to be here is, for us, as an individual ,to discover for ourselves why things happened to us and to learn to become better as a result of the experience. As long as we have people or organizations or Churches telling us who or what we are, and what to think, or how to vote and it is making us uncomfortable, it usually is because we are not relying on ourselves to discover what God’s intentions for us are,but instead allowing ourselves to be brainwashed by something or someone to the point we no longer even know who we are or what we stand for.

We all,regardless of our circumstances in life, have a duty to ourselves, to understand and know what it is that we believe in or stand for. The best way to know that if we do believe what we have been told, is to simply ask ourselves during times set aside to reflect or to do an examination of our conscience. No Church, organization, family, friend, is made whole by someone so weak that she/he are merely repeating what they think we want to hear or what they have learned by constant repeating of the message. Without sincerity, we all are fooling ourselves, in believing that our lives have become anything more than a lie.

Behind every crime that has ever been done, from serial killer, robbery,incest, adultery, to worshipping false gods, they all began with a lie. Usually when lieing to themselves that they were deserving of it.

Make sure that when it comes to making a decision in our/your own life that you are being totally honest with yourself, and have removed all excuses. Just like on judgement day, there are no excuses as to why we choose to go against what we know to be true, wrong or unfair to us. We will not be answering any questions in regard to other peoples’ responsibility. Not even our husbands’, wives’ parents’ childrens’. We all stand alone and answer for ourselves. As long as we are doing what we must do in order to make our own peace with life, it will be no different than judgement day when asked, “why were you not happy, when I gave you all the tools to be?”

Not a single one of us will be able to blame it on someone else other than ourselves. One thing that is certain, for all Christians, is that we will die and have a judgement day. It is never too late to become the best that we can be and find peace, contentment and joy in the process.

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