When we study genealogy, nothing is brought home more than,” the more we change the more we remain the same.” The statistics in each individual family remains fairly even when it comes to the failure versus success ratio from one generation to the next. There are very few if any families that will remain free of at least one family member having a criminal background over a three generation period, for instance. We can see a pretty well-rounded constant of the first generation establishing land holdings and or wealth, the second generation holding it together, and the third generation losing it.
All generations seem to have the proverbial favorite child that fails and the not so favorite child that succeeds. Our view of right and wrong also remains fairly consistent over the generations, so morality remains variable to constant then, as it does now. Views of what are and what are not acceptable behavior do change with almost identical results.
The moral protests over government as versus its people also remains fairly constant. Those that would prevail with the ideals or attitude that we as a Nation are more threatened now than what we have been in the past, when it comes to laxe rules of morality, would find if they looked closer, per capita we are pretty much even with the past when we discuss issues of morality. We have, though, as a people made huge progress in areas of equal rights,reducing race discrimination, and brought attention to the accepted ways of thinking that have become outdated in both areas of human rights and human behavior. We have gained in compassion for both the understanding and equality of others. We have a great deal to be proud of in the advancements made in these areas even though we still have a distance yet to go and that compassion is being threatened.
America has never totally known what to do with her freedom or the best way of governing it. Certainly corruption in government is not something new to this day and age. Families that sometimes appeared to fail the worse would have a child or children that would out succeed those that appeared to have children that were raised in ideal backgrounds.
Some families knew and understood the value of raising a child to be themselves without depleting their creative abilities. In doing so they also understood, the child would grow up in the field they were ordained to conquer, and thereby the chances of success as well as happiness would be increased. That theory is not new to the thinking of child behaviorist today.
Most pointers of success, show that self-expression can be allowed and handled better in a child that is taught the natural order of right and wrong and is disciplined, over the child that is neglected or free to run or govern themselves. Sadly too many families think that a child that is disciplined will have all their natural creativity taught out of them. This simply is not the truth, children can be allowed self-expression and taught how to express themselves, in ways acceptable to both home and Society, through discipline.
There has always been and will continue be, an acceptable way of speaking that grants respect to both child and adult. Children must have rules that will not interfere with, but strengthen their nutrition, sleep, and safety. Just as adults that speak of others or to others in both nasty words and actions do not feel good about themselves, neither do our children.
Teaching them a vocabulary that is not offensive to the adult population is not stifling their abilities but rather teaching them acceptable behavior. Just as an adult does better with a clear conscious so does and will a child. Children need the security and guidelines necessary to make them feel safe, loved, and good about themselves. Just as we adults can perform better with the same, so do our children perform better with the discipline. We can better offer that through, guidelines, curfews, and constant reassurance both through our own action and words.
It is when public schools or we as a family demand that all children be on the same page at the same time we find less than stellar results. We now must play catch up in order to correct the mistakes made with the “No Child Left Behind” program. Just the same as when a child was forced into accepting and thinking the previous generation had all the answers and therefore should be seen and not heard, has failed to provide acceptable results in the past. We as both a family and as Americans must always search for and seek out that which will work best for us as both individuals as well as a Nation.
Going backwards to an era that has proved to be less successful than today, when it comes to equality of both race and gender, strikes me as foolhardy, at the very least, if not down right dangerous. Clearly, the interests of the special interests groups should not replace those of the majority of Americans, nor should they have power over those of, “We the People”.