And So It Goes…………..

While I took a break to remodel, read, paint and to travel I have experienced the dichotomy of the American and political brain when it comes to words not being put forth into actions and the handling of disasters.

Sadness spread by the hurricane on the East Coast followed much later by the tragedy in NewTown, only to be brought to an increased crescendo in Boston and now the disasters in Moore, Oklahoma will certainly(or should) rain on the parade of the Isis witch hunts or the GOP’s strategy sessions to degrade our President’s attempts to help the American middle class even further.

I will explain myself further if I am the only one who is correlating the dichotomy of the contradiction of the American politics in America:

1. At a time that politicians in Oklahoma are passing the personhood bill to ensure all rights of human life to a fetus who in many cases may not even be viable to sustain life outside of the womb and in other cases can lead to the death of a woman, they fail to see the importance of providing tornado shelters for the alive children in their States.

2. AT a time when Isis appears on the network and cable news assuring the public that he is going to work with President Obama to pass immigration changes he continues to attack and berate Eric Holder and President Obama as being in cahoot’s to lie to The American people and of intimidation and corruption, while off camera.

3. While the GOP and Conservatives in the Democrat Party reach out in an effort to express horror over the NewTown shootings they hands down vote down measures that would and do protect the American people and our children from future attacks in our schools, on our streets and in our homes. 

4. The above mentioned; along with the Tea Party, white supremacists groups,members of Washington D.C.’s political power, lobbyists, and our States show up at the NRA Convention where they help promote the lies to the NRA membership of 75,000 strong that these efforts to safeguard our children are only efforts by the Obama Administration and the Liberals to take away their guns.

5. Anyone who can not see the dichotomy of the Tea Party and Conservative cause that bans equal rights to women in their National Platform but profess concern for future generations while professing to be God Fearing and protectors of the Faith, Constitution, and Democracy clearly are not seeing reality.  To continually operate opposite of speech in action is a clear cut reality of not just the far right, Tea Party, and Conservative cause but also of the way too many amongst us vote.

6. The two headed monster of dichotomy in America is alive and healthy in too many of the burbs and rural areas in the Red States and the Conservative hold outs in the Blue States across America.  I noticed the very large billboards advertising the various number of Churches while we were driving into Pensacola Florida. 

Would Christ truly approve of such commercialization knowing over a 5 year period that those billboards cost in the neighborhood of $100,000.00 per sign and each Church has their own sign of advertisement? Couldn’t that money be better utilized elsewhere, since all the churches are also listed in both the motel room directories as well as the yellow pages? 

I also saw many of the Breadbasket and Bible belt States accusing a caring and compassionate Democracy that treats ALL American’s needs as being the practice of Socialism. Those billboards and signs are interspersed amongst the States that claim Christian values along our highways as well.

Since so many, I noticed, are also driving around with bumper stickers that read: “Put Christ back in Christmas,” to the point they fail to see the over-whelming generosity towards the less fortunate and the most innocent amongst us at Christmas time, of non-Christians and Christians alike, is the most Christ-like behavior we can express; couldn’t we argue that perhaps the majority of us are failing to see the obvious while the politicians and their paid for media are playing us for fools because too many of us are disengaged or in denial?

Where is the outrage when the IRS does question legitimately the huge numbers of groups who clearly are political that hides behind Religious or freedom of ideology just to get tax breaks that are not legal? 

Where is the outrage when the same people who start the witch hunts failed themselves to legislate the necessary funds that would have safeguarded our Embassys over seas? 

Where is the outrage when the innocent amongst us are left unprotected because the members of the GOP refuse to allocate the funding necessary to keep our children safe, or for that matter pass laws that would limit the amount of fire power by limiting the number of bullets in the size of the magazines?

We the People keep speaking to the political leaders across the Nation and their reponse is to actually accuse the government for interfering while we continually see the need for government to help us but our elected officials are refusing to do anything that will help us. 

Perhaps the only part of government we truly do need to down size and eliminate are our elected officials in Congress who claim to be on our side when tragedy strikes but votes against us when they have both a moral responsibility to vote for our needs and are elected to show competency as our elected officials.

While the media broadcasts and the GOP tries to tie a link with the mismanaged, scandalous and sometimes misunderstood depts. of government to our President has anyone even noticed that the deficit is going down, the previously uninsured can now get insurance while healthcare costs have gone down, the interests rates charged to students who are interested in improving their education and skills have remained low, the students who wish to go on with their education are now covered on their parent’s insurance, The GNP (Gross National Product) has doubled, housing has gone up and the economy is improving due to the changes made by the Obama Administration that is putting Americans back to work?

Where is the media reporting on the truth when Americans need to know? Hasn’t our President gone the extra step when it comes to tragedy and disaster in our Nation? Isn’t his concern and efforts for immigration change once more being stymied by those who insist they want the Latino and Hispanic vote, as usual? What bill other than the ones that apply to them personally along with their lobbyist, who purchased them, have the Conservatives in the Senate and the Congress passed in the last five years, that they were not pressured into doing because of their fear of not being re-elected? Have we forgotten that they only begrudgingly passed funds necessary to help those hit by the hurricane on our East Coast or to bring relief to the middle class and unemployed?

I will continue staying tuned in with my concerns while enjoying the retirement that my husband and I balanced the budget for that enables our enjoyment in the last quarter of our lives.

Every now and then when nothing has changed; as the GOP readies it’s strategy, with the help of the TEA Party, to enter under qualified candidates who are financially supported in the 100s of thousands and even millions of dollars and owe their souls to the cause of the Tea Party political machine; over those candidates who would put the American people first, I will check in with my readers. The Conservative and Tea Party groups claims of Social ideology over political based control or greed hurts my ears if it doesn’t yours.

With the 2014 elections coming up in less than 18 months can we not all smell the manure of another attempt to denigrate the Obama Administration
with increased witch hunts and lies spread by the Tea Party as we heard in 2010?

My empathy as always is with the suffering and tragedy of the American people. Will we ever have Republican and Conservative legislatures who acknowledge that the needs of “We the People”, needs to be their first and main concern by doing something in Congress and our States that would indicate the same?

Don’t we already have enough proof of the stall tactics of the GOP and Tea Party sponsored candidates to do nothing but to eliminate the pay scale of the middle class jobs, to lower education abilities,to protect capitalism over the people, or their failure to do that which is right for the American People as equals? Will we the majority of the electoral body get out of denial and get engaged in the true dichotomy of American politics? And so it goes………..

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What Causes People to Hate?

Hate comes from an inner turmoil within the thoughts of an individual and can commonly rise to the level of anger that explodes out of control in individuals or groups. What may begin as a neighborhood dispute between two people can end up becoming a neighborhood dispute involving the entire block if people begin taking sides. The same thing often happens in families with everyone being forced into taking sides, when any issues should remain between the two individuals to work out together.

We often find the similar thing happening in divorce cases where each of the members try to convince their friends, and sometimes their children who were the victims in a marriage, while an over-whelming amount of the time the divorce couples themselves divide the loyalty of their friends or their children’s affections. Too often because the real abusers in the relationship are often charismatic by nature, people will side with the abuser over the victims; Even when marriages remain intact children will often side with the abuser since they are so starved for affection from the parent who abuses they can be manipulated by the abuser who often with holds affection or pays them off with praises or money. Hate can arise from extreme dislike of ourselves and others.  Hate arises from:oppression,fear, envy,greed,ignorance,jealously or any number of negative feelings that arises from an individual person and can spread from that individual through a group.

In organizations,gangs,or groups that demand membership surrenders its own ability to think for themselves to the leaders of these groups, hate can spread through intimidation,brain washing techniques or come from a person who longs to be accepted.  Because these groups often seek out  individuals who feel that they have been disrespected by others all their lives, to join their group or gangs hate spreads through ignorance. When the majority of membership when left on their own really would have nothing against the groups they are trained to hate, they are taken advantage by the leadership that works them into a frenzy of hate.  What often comes out of these groups is the by-product of hate against people that they have absolutely no rational reason to dislike,much less hate.

Rarely if ever is hate based on rational feeling. Greed is involved in gang wars that kill over drug territory for instance.  People get killed without even having so much as discussed their differences with the ones they kill. Many times people who have no knowledge of the beliefs of the Hindu or Muslim Religions will hate entire groups who practice their religious belief.  We find irrational hate against both Religions because a radical, Osama Bin Laden,outside of the beliefs of Muslim Faith, attacked us on 9/11.  The Hindu Religious group in Milwaukee was attacked out of the same ignorance of what appears to be a deranged individual.  Many times people are harassed or attacked for nothing more than skin color while it is supported by law in States like Arizona.

We can hate the spread of hate and we can insist our leaders stop hate but unless mankind educates themselves to understand their own irrational fears or learns to  control  negative feelings, hate can spread like a wildfire and has been a part of history since the beginning  of human existence.

The Middle East has been at war between Religious sects that vary in their beliefs and who view the other as their enemy since 76 AD. Children are taught at a very young age there, just as they are here, who they should hate. Hate is not just a product of America but it spreads around the World with apartheid in Africa and Dictatorship in Cuba.  A mistrust always lays as the basis of hate.

When we have groups like the NRA,The White Supremacy,The Skin heads, 330 Militia Groups Of the Tea Party, gaining support in the Republican Party due to the growth of the Tea Party within its membership, then we see acceptance of hate when it should not be tolerated by government. Some believe there is a  total of 1000  hate groups currently in America.  They range from the radical of animal rights to the anarchists that often are sent to protests in our Streets from across the Canadian border. In these groups we  find the leaders working the members into a feeding frenzy of hate while telling those who already feel disenfranchised from America’s Social fabric, that they are being victimized.  When  hate is spoken about and bandied about combined with drinking cases of beer,hate often begins in one individual and spreads through an entire group of people.

Other times hate is spread against the gay community in Churches with preaching of the Bible verses against the gay population. A huge sector of the internet and social media will spread lies against the innocent or tell half-truths to try to turn people to their cause through hate. Members of hate groups will send out their hate propaganda to friends through email.  Many times gossips will do the same in offices or small communities or neighborhoods. The Conservative Republican legislature refuses to even recognize the gay community as existing, as they claim they have not been recognized by law. In many cases the Bible that was intended to be a guide to lead mankind out of hate and a guide to lead us instead into acceptance of each other, gets misused by Churches and is used instead to stir up hate against groups that they profess to be marked for, “Hell and Damnation.”

The only way any of us can stop the spread of hate is through education and acceptance of all of us.  When we have the very groups who should be helping to educate people against hate responsible for helping spread hate, then it often takes the citizenry to educate those who hate one at a time.  Even when we do we still will find that students who feel like outcasts,those who feel they are superior even though they are often times filled with fear of inadequacy themselves, and workers who get laid off will still be a threat to Society because of the irrational thinking that explodes in the individual who seeks out revenge through hate.

As a Nation we need to recognize the compassion that we have and to do a better job of dealing with the treatment of the mentally ill. Too many even in the medical profession, refuse to promote real and comprehensive reform in healthcare for those who suffer from mental illness because too many times their hands are tied due to Insurance Companies refusal to carry mental patients long-term.  Churches need to take another look at the way they handle the gay issue and abortion and be ever cognizant of those in their own midst that will use either as an excuse to be a hero in the eyes of the Church, by gong on a killing rampage.

As a Nation we need to enforce hate crimes while not enforcing them to the point that they infringe on our rights to freedom of Speech, and that is such a delicate line to cross, that often times law enforcement is damn if they do and damn if they don’t. We need to better educate people in the different religious beliefs and the history of the races without parents yelling Fowl.  We need to teach respect for all people and religions in America but too often when civil rights leaders attempt to do this they are ridiculed and derided for infringing on the rights of white  Americans.  We need to start educating and not stop even while the far right continues to fight against education.

With the younger generations coming up and making friends with people of different beliefs and skin colors we always look for hope in them teaching acceptance and educating the adults to become more tolerate but too many times schools produce the worse kind of hate because the parents accuse the teachers for promoting unity amongst their students, when the parents do not want their children co-mingling due to their own hate issues. Other times parents themselves are so desperate to have their children accepted and popular that they deliberately encourage feelings of superiority in their children when the children themselves feel an inferiority. Some children, who form cliques and are held together by hate, will spread it through phone calls or the internet when they are intimidated by the group to do so if they wish to remain a part of the group.

Due to the mixed emotions  we parents too many times instill in our own children,  groups often form in schools that learn to either co-exists or it leads to disenfranchising a whole group of children because they are not a part of the “cool group” or “one of us.” To often parents create the hate that surfaces in their own children.  This mentality exists in the parents just as bullies are a product of home environment and are a by-product of hate.

The long and short of hate is that it is very complicated and comes from all directions. Even if we could make laws to counter act hate we would have protests from another group that their rights were being infringed on.  The best solution of all is when”We The People” hear words of hate from our children or their friends we take the time to educate our children and support both our Schools and Church leaders in doing the same.  We need to be the leaders against intolerance in our own homes,neighborhoods, schools, and Churches without passing the buck onto another day or another time.  If it is going on in our schools and Churches ,then we the membership, must stand up against it by demanding that the spread of hate stops and is replaced instead by understanding our differences and acceptance of all Americans as equals.

It often only takes one of us speaking out to turn hate into acceptance in our own neighborhoods, one block at a time. We need to get started making a difference now.  Our Republican Congressmen and  Senators need to quit making excuses and start making comprehensive laws of acceptance of Native Americans, the gay population, and Hispanics that grant them rights. The Republican Senate who has filibustered it, can now rethink their previous objections, by passing the Violence Against Women Act that includes Native Americans, the gay populations and Hispanics.

Anyone who has hate issues themselves needs to get help before you help raise the next generation of people made miserable by their own intolerance and feelings of hate. One thing people who hate never find is joy or contentment.  To think that our child or grandchild will never be happy but instead only hate should spring all of us into action by stopping the spread of hate each time we hear it. The media are easy to deal with as all we need to do is switch stations or turn them off, when they spread their hate. ”We The People”, are not so easy to deal with, so we need to get started and lead by example for the next generations coming up, so they never hear the hate that we have heard escalating and spreading these last four years. The voters have spoken.  God Bless all of us!

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Pathological Liars And Hypocrites

The uproar in the Republican Party leadership and the Conservative media, over the Todd Aiken comments on rape is so hypocritical and only infuriates the members of the Republican Party, because like President Obama giving amnesty to the latino and Hispanic population who were brought here as children, it draws attention to what the real divide in the two parties has been about while the Republican Party wants to keep this quiet since they know that it will cost them the women’s vote; even while they lie and some in the media promotes the same lie, that it is women who want this since they overwhelmingly choose the pro-life view that the Good Old Boys continue to force on women.

The Republican Party’s growing war against women was brought to the fore front in what the Tea Party and Conservatives have really believed on rape going back to 1988 when the then Republican representative from Delaware, alluded to the same view. This was the belief of Church officials going back to the 1300′s and was even used as a way to know if a woman had been of loose morals prior to a rape. Doctor John Wilkie reported the same insane belief in 1999 and Todd  Aiken was quoting him about women not being able to get pregnant in a legitimate rape.

Dr. Willkie is a supporter of candidate Romney going back to 2007. He was so important to Romney that he headlined Dr. John Willkie as a supporter at the time. Mitt Romney now calling for the resignation of Missouri Senator Todd Aiken of Missouri to resign in as fake  of an act of disgust for his comment on rape as is the rest of the Republican Party’s pretence to be alarmed by the same.

The belief that good girls secrete a fluid, out of fear and therefore cannot get pregnant in a legitimate or what they prefer to call a forcible rape, has always been the universal view amongst them.  They are now  trying to attack  Todd Aiken for saying out loud what they have grown to accept and for the media to promote his view as an extreme view of the right and not the view of Romney and Ryan, is as big of a lie as everything else that the Republicans are trying to keep quiet in their move to deny  minorities and women both their civil and equal rights.

They had hoped they could go into their Convention next week without drawing attention to the fact that their own platform denies women any rights at all to their own decision to contraception or their health but instead give those rights to the fertilized egg, in what they call the Personhood bill that they have attempted to try to pass on the floor or attach to the bills that Democrats have tried to pass since 2004.

The law of ”Personhood” has already  been  passed in Virginia,Oklahoma,Kansas,Nebraska,Idaho and Arizona.  Women are back to crossing the border into Mexico from Arizona and again being aborted by unlicensed abortion practitioners in an unclean environment or are getting what is a prescription abortion pill,without direction from a Dr. or pharmacist in the United States, just as they had been forced into doing prior to the passage of Roe vs.Wade.

Because women are being handed these pills they are taking as much as the whole bottle that is leading to hemorrhaging again as it did  in the 1950′s.  Even in the 1930′s, 18% of pregnant women got illegal abortions.  Wealthy women always had a Dr. who would perform an abortion in a clean environment and they would list it as a miscarriage.  Men who feel they can make women subservient to them again by keeping them pregnant abound in the Republican Party. There are more than 1000 more bills pending in other States that run the gamut from pressing criminal charges on women who seek abortion to banning the use of birth control for women.

There is not, nor have there ever been any laws to ban condoms,surgery for men, or testosterone decreasing drugs for men,or Viagra by these same hypocrites who are attempting to have the fertilized egg rights increased over the rights of women, while they out-law the use of birth control for women, as well. By ignoring the use of birth control or non-birth control in men they are stripping women of the right to make decisions for their own procreation and instead giving the right to men, to determine the size of the family or the number of fatherless children they produce. 38 States have already removed Insurance coverage  to women for any form of birth control for women, while they continue paying for men, including Viagra .Drug Companies continue to develop a birth control pill for men without any protests from the Republican Party.

When we live in a society where too many men are refusing to work, or being paid cash under the table, rather than pay child support and single mothers are instead getting support from our States, these elected Tea Party and Conservatives in the Republican Party and to a much lesser degree 16 Conservative Democrats are supporting the decisions of men in procreation, over women.

In doing so they are trying to limit divorces that  they think will force women into choosing between poverty or being subservient to men by forcing too many women to remain in abusive or miserable marriages or relationships. If they were truly trying to stop or prevent abortions they would not be attempting to ban the morning after pill or birth control for women, because even an idiot would understand that to do so, will only increase the number of abortions.

By making birth control and abortion for women illegal and pressing criminal charges against women, it will only take women back to the 1950′s when they were dying of infections or hemorrhaging in back alley abortions again. If they are stupid enough to think they can take  free will from women that God granted us all,including women, away from us then we need to get them out of Republican Party since clearly they are only proving they do not have a clue how women do feel or think.

Paul Ryan, is denying that they are banning birth control for women, even though he has introduced or co-sponsored or voted  for 62 bills that limit women the right to their own health and to making their own decisions, on procreation. Mitt Romney in the Republican primary debates said, and I quote,”I hope that the Congress passes legislation that bans all abortions because if they do, as President, I will sign it into law in a heart beat.”  the Mormon Church, of which he is a Bishop, also denies women the rights to the use of birth control. The media that now tries to promote the out rage of the Republicans against Todd Aiken of Missouri for his comments on rape are as hypocritical as the Republican Party, itself, is over their so-called outrage.

In 2008 the Republican representative from Texas made the comment”Rape is inevitable as the weather so a woman might as well set back and enjoy it,” and many in the Party have held the idea or belief that this is what cost John McCain the women’s vote in 2008 and they sure as the hell were not going to make that mistake again.  Paul Aiken did make that mistake on repeating their over-all view on rape and in doing so he committed the unforgivable sin in the Republican Party and they acted in agreement over what they feel is betrayal by Todd Aiken for exposing their belief.

The Republican platform next week, states that all abortions will be banned by the Republican Party,  in all cases of  a fertilized egg including all rapes and when women’s lives are in jeopardy.  This has been the big secret that they wanted to keep even though it has already been adopted to their platform and has been the same since 2004 but has gone unreported. They will deny women any and all rights and instead turn all those rights over to the fertilized egg, by passing what they call “the Personhood Bill” and in doing so it will deny women all use of contraception.

Aiken and Ryan sponsored the  HR3 bill together on the House floor that tries to define rape and denies women of rape their own rights.  The belief in the Republican Party, that they are trying to distance themselves from Todd Aiken’s belief, along with their own belief that good girls do not get pregnant when raped but those who they call whores (any non-virgins) do because of their behavior,how they dress, or the fact that they are drinking alcohol,or fall for a man’s lie of,” come in for a drink”, then they  ask for rape, is as common in their belief as the sun rising. They have been and do separate various degrees of rape from being forcible rape and therefore the fault of the womans’ behavior, and to deny that they do is just more of the lies of ”Good Old Boys.”

For them to come out in force now and pretend that they have not been trying to define different levels of rape and attach bills of Personhood to a fertilized egg on every attempt made by President Obama and the Democrats to pass through bills on immigration and on bills that would help balance the budget or give job relief to the middle class,or farmers and ranchers relief in a comprehensive farm bill, is nothing more than the lies that have existed for 4 years in the Republican Party.

In a study done in 1996 and reported in the American Journal of gynecological and obstetrics, approximately 32,000 women per year who are raped get pregnant or 5% of all women raped.  If any of us believe that Mitt Romney and Paul Ryan will allow these women the choice to choose abortion to eliminate an unwanted pregnancy, then it is time you get out of denial before the next people they decide to take away freedoms and rights from is yourself.

As much as Romney denies now, that he will follow his Party platform, we can relate it to the same as when he says,”You are just going to have to take my word for it when I say, I pay taxes.” If you believe him then take to heart what Grover Norquist,who is the Republican Party, has said,”We do not need a President who comes in here with an agenda or plans on making policy changes, all we need is a man with five digits who will sign into law what we tell him to sign.”

As long as the Republican Party could promote through the media that it was President Obama who would not co-operate with them and was  responsible for the divisiveness between the two parties and the media  promoted  that idea then they could defeat President Obama and do as Mitch McConnell promoted and that is make President Obama a one term President.  They took a pledge under the guidance of Grover Norquist, to do the same at the CPAC retreat, ten days after President Obama was signed into office, and 95% of the Republican Party agreed to it.  All newcomers to the Senate and Congress in 2010 were also asked to sign it, and since they were all Tea Party members they knew they would, with Eric Cantor, Paul Ryan, and Mitch McConnell leading the pack. It caused the Tea Party favorite to win the election in Kentucky against Senator Lugar because Lugar refused to sign it and instead voted for Obama’s affordable health care.

With their efforts to defeat President Obama,they are pumping in billions of dollars through right-wing groups such as Citizens United,The Christian Coalition,Americans for Prosperity,The Christian Family Group,etc. while Romney/Ryan supporters are writing $10 million dollar checks to defeat affordable healthcare that provides free screening for all of us and birth control for women. The lies are astronomical coming out of the Republican campaigns this year. They think if they buy enough ads and keep repeating the lies, while they campaign with the same lies, that we will eventually believe their lies and vote for them.  As far back as 1962 or 60 years ago, Adlai Stevenson who ran for President against Dwight D. Eisenhower in the 50′s, said and I quote,”If the Republicans will quit lying about us,(the Democrats) we will quit telling the truth about them.” Its way past time we show them what we do think of their lies.

Vote in November even though it will mean sacrificing our time getting picture ID,a birth certificate and two proofs of residency, standing in line, and time away from our work and families, due to the Republican voter suppression laws in our States.  In some cases,if you are in college,it may even mean skipping school and going home to vote. We need to show them that no matter how difficult they make it for us to vote, they cannot nor will they deny women,minorities, and immigrants equality nor will they break our spirits in the efforts to deny us our freedom. The important thing is that we Vote or we will be the ones who lose, the most, and you will be next.

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Another Time In History

It was not that long ago, when we consider the amount of time than mankind has lived, when we or our family members were all on the list of the despised and hated.  The Republicans need to acknowledge that their time of discrimination has ended.  A new wave of acceptance has reached America.

Just as the Republican Party, the Churches, and the red necks of America fought against the acceptance of a Catholic President, a Black President,  and while other’s believed the Mormon Faith was a  cult, the last prejudice against an entire sector of people in America is falling.  Even though the Republican Party and those remaining Churches who still refuse to accept the gay population of America have many friends and colleagues that are gay, they still are denying the equality to them than no man has a right to deny any American who pays into our tax base,fights for our Country, and  is a citizen of America.

When we ourselves are victims of prejudice we have a full understanding of the ways in which we are discriminated against and the names and ways the bigots try to hide behind Christian values, as a more endearing or kinder excuse to gain acceptance of their views, over that of acknowledging prejudice.  The argument against marriage in the gay community sounds eerily the same as it did before Jews could marry into the white population or the reverse discrimination when Jews were not allowed to marry outside of their faith,before Catholics could marry Protestants or again the reverse discrimination when Protestants could not marry Catholics, and before inter-racial marriages were allowed. We all felt that discrimination or our family members did when we fell in love with someone outside of our religious convictions and were not allowed to marry them without threat of excommunication.  The very people who were discriminated against, not that many years ago and those who still are, have clearly forgotten what discrimination felt or feels like and looks like when they were denied the right to marry because discrimination has always been raised to a higher level behind the excuse of Christian values.

For those who argue that the beliefs of the Churches  is not mean-spirited, that may be true to those who do not deal with the situation on a personal level, but when I remember being a Catholic and marrying a Protestant during this period of time, I can assure you it felt like hate.  To be told that my husband as a non-Catholic could not go to Heaven or the reverse from a Protestant mother-in-law that the Catholic Church was storing guns in their basement to attack non-Catholics while she tried her damnest to break us up and to invoke her Preacher’s name; it still is very difficult for me to believe that hate did not feed into these views of prejudice. It did not even come close to the hate during that same time and the Bible being quoted against the sin of a”white woman laying down with a black man.”  The views out of the Christian communities in the past as well as against the gay population today, are very much fed on hate when we are the people who are involved with loving the person who the Churches deny us the right to marry.

The Republicans along with too many of the Churches are dead wrong on this issue.  Either we are a Country of equality for all or a few in this Nation, that call themselves Republicans, are the ruling class of America and have the right to tell the rest of American people what  their rights and place in America are.  The last I remember they were not given the power to discriminate against anyone in our Constitution but instead only in their Churches.Seperation of Church and State is the law in America.

For Romney to say,” that the gay people have rights as they can visit each other in the hospital when they are sick,” seems to be a generous concession on the part of the Republican Party who has appointed themselves as the ruling class.  Without marriage children will always be considered ill-legitimate in America.  Without marriage a committed couple remains single for life.  Without marriage siblings have a larger right in many States to the property and assets that  a committed couple spends their lifetime working together to earn.  To claim that marriage is just the right of heterosexuals and to hide behind Religion sounds a lot like it sounded when slaves were refused the right to marry on Religious convictions when inter-racial marriages were wrong because of religious convictions, and when Jews, Catholics and Mormons were burnt out of their homes for fear that one of their children would marry a white Protestant, because they were considered to be lesser than the white Protestant, by the religious convictions in the community of their day.

How far back do we have to fall or how much rule will we tolerate giving over to the Republican Party over all of us, who are ourselves or family members of discrimination,  before we all vote for equality and justice for all in America?  When the same Party denies that the gay population falls into the arena of hate crimes, while voting against it, and they have a History of yelling, “Religious Convictions,” for 200 years now, haven’t we who are or were one of those discriminated against, forgotten our own roots?  It is time to quiet that over-worn excuse that allows their hate to grow while dividing the civility of the American people. Vote for equality for all Americans in November.

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Sorry, But Adults Returning Home Is Lame

I am going to venture off of politics today and make myself very unpopular with some of all of the generations, as I am going to tell you exactly what your returning home to your parents home as adults, is doing to both you and your parents self esteem. This is something that neither your parents or your friends who also live at home, will be honest enough to tell you but what both your friends who are independent enough to move out talk about as well as your parents discuss with their confidants usually over that mixed drink or glass of wine.

Time magazine published an article entitled , “Living At Home Is Not Lame But Awesome”. Clearly this was written to bolster the ego of the millions of 25 to 30 year old adults who are living at home with their parents. No parent on earth, if they want to inspire and reassure their children will be honest enough to tell you that in your own selfishness and due to your own lack of independence and ambition you are draining them of their own self esteem as well as the money they would otherwise be able to save towards their own retirement.

In cases where parents doubt their own parenting skills and if they did enough to teach you to be independent to want to stand on your own two feet, they will welcome you back home. In cases where the parents refuse to let go of control and make your life their focal point over getting a life of their own, they will welcome you back home. In cases where parents admit to themselves, if no one else, “You couldn’t “wipe your butt” without them, they will welcome you home. In cases where your parents are lonely because they do not want to spread their own wings far enough to enjoy their own independence or freedom, they will welcome you home.

In cases where they refuse to acknowledge that all adult children need to learn the lesson of what going hungry will teach them towards developing independence and ingenuity, they will welcome you home. In cases where you are draining them dry financially because of your refusal to take responsibility for your own finances and they can see where it will save them money if you move home, they will welcome you home.

In cases where you have a drug habit and lack total drive to get a job and they are afraid that you will be on the street, they will welcome you home. The list goes on in how you are relieving your stress towards passing your responsibility onto the shoulders of your parents and at the sake of adding to your parents stress because you moved back home. Most parents will not acknowledge this fact to themselves, much less to you, as to do so will brand them a failure as a parent. If you are feeling like less of a failure because you are living at home as a adult, then ask yourself,”Who is it that absorbs my feeling like a failure for me?”

The statistics now show that adult children who earn a bachelor degree are getting employment. As a matter of fact unemployment for those who have a bachelor degree now stands at a low of 4.2% with an over all 5.5% being the National average of unemployment during a booming economy.

It may not be that job that will pay off the massive debt you occurred because you refused to hold down a job while attending college. You may have to work another job as well, in order to now pay back the piper. You may have to have more roomates because the rents have increased, sometimes unfairly.The truth is that those who are independent and able to find employment and do understand that their lifestyle will not be the same as they got accustomed to while living with Mom and Dad, are getting jobs either in the Continental United States or across the Ocean.

If you are not doing so well it is because it is clear, if not to you and your parents but to future employers, you lack the skill and ability to take on the necessary hours and ambition that the job that you really think you are qualified for will entail, in many cases.

How you paid your bills, what kind of ambition did you show while a student, what was your social life like, did you make a general nuisance of yourself or did you show a strike of independence and inventiveness, were you willing to explore possibilities that showed real ingenuity, what kind of credit rating did you maintain, did you take responsibility for your own mistakes,rents,appearance, punch the time card on time, or did you just borrow more in student loans over working part time, etc? These are all questions that will find answers by future employers before you are hired by them. College
is not simply a training ground for grades but also the type of person that you are capable of showing everyone, you are.

The high rate of unemployment as well as the economy is having a much harsher effect on the the highschool graduates who did not get the opportunity to go on to earn their bachelor degree. It also includes the massive lay offs done by Corporations to the 50 plus age of workers, who will not be hired back, and have to re-invent themselves and thier futures. Too many young adults who really do want to have their parents home from 9 to 5 to entertan their friends, while their parents work away from home and stress out over their adult childrens’ responsibilities are taking advantage of the situation and instead begrudging those who are on their own, the idea that those who do work a job they would not ever take, as being losers.

Its time to get real.Corporations are not going to hire every College graduate who does not show a willingness to stand on their own two feet without having to have their hands held. The reality that it is tough to have to stand on our own and eat Ramen Noodles after getting out of college and while earning a job, has not changed that much for a college graduate. That has always been pretty much the norm,but that degree will open the door so that a young person with drive and ambition who is sometimes willing to travel, can begin a sucessful future has not changed.

Attitudes, lack of responsibility and a dwiddling salary while rents continue to go up is a difficulty of todays graduates that do require inspiration and sometimes groups of friends or aquaintances who will sometimes need to combine incomes in order for you to
accomplish and to defeat your excuses as to why you can not move out of your parents homes; it is your reality to be dealt with. Rarely do any of us or have any of us gotten to choose the reality of the circumstances facing us when we did get the degree and graduated from College. Our generations and generations before faced the draft and going to war. Other generations faced great depression and the “dirty thirties.” Every generation has unique problems that we must all deal with as the adults that we are through establishing our own answers through becoming the adult that adds to and contributes to the economy we form for ourselves and future generations without making it the problem of Mom and Dad.

The answer to simply avoid it so that you can return to being the child of Mr. and Mrs. again may feel temporilly satisfying,but in the long run it will always defeat your own goals the longer you stay, as well as the goals that your parents had for you. As I have written before, “Excuses Are For 6 Year Olds.” Maturity that goes along with adulthood, means standing on our own and providing for our own needs, and that never changes. Sometimes we do have to “bust our chops” and go without to make it happen but I assure both you and your parents that the rewards of doing so are all worth it.

Sometimes we have to be humbled before we do earn our own success. We can’t count on Corporations and Companies to come to us with the offers when too many see the the bottom line as a profit margin to increase the wealth of the Board of Directors and no longer offer support or give loyalty to the worker. Too many aged 50 plus workers have had to learn that the hard way over the last 25 years. Many of us have been there and done that, and that is why I write this for you. Your success begins today with you.

Good Luck and when you arrive, never forget those who helped you become the success you knew you could be. The person you were when you moved home and thought it was awesome and those who hindered you with excuses as well as yourself, won’t be there when success does happen and that is a guarantee that most of us who did realize the American dream will give you. It may be the only guarantee that any of us ever have or do get. We make our own success or failure beginning with our own attitudes and dedication to the reality of the situation we are in and the character of the people we work for, because they are willing to pay us for an honest days work. They still exist but many times we need to earn our own way before we find them.

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Bigots Speak At CPAC

For those who do not know what CPAC means, it is the initials for Conservative Political Action committee that is meeting for the second day today, to firm up their straw poll for which candidate they will support. Early forecasts, and if you read my post yesterday it should be no surprise to anyone, if applause is any indicator, it appears that Rick Santorum will be their choice.

If I may digress from the title for a moment, when Rick Santorum was asked what he thought about the changes being made in the military for women in combat; He said, and I quote,”I do not think that it is a good idea to put women on the front lines as it would offer too many distractions because of emotions.”

This is another typically insane statement that comes out of the disturbed mind of Rick Santorum. Everyone appears to be puzzled by exactly what he means. Does he think women are too emotional to do the job or does he think it will distract the male troops if they get an erection? When he exclaims,”It’s hot down there”, one can only believe he is talking of the later, unless perhaps he has a venereal disease for which he needs to be treated with anti-biotics.

The man is so focused against women libertine and against contraception, just being wrong in his mind,it’s anyone’s guess what he is saying. His ideals are even extreme when it comes to the teachings of the Catholic Church, which he professes to be a member of. He clearly speaks as a man who only sees women as a womb and therefore incapable of anything other than procreation. Apparently he is in favor of the idea that women just lay there and conceive since the fear of pregnancy or pleasure, would be a sin for women, in his convoluted mind.

The really offensive thing, and it only follows up with the bigotry in the Conservative group and Tea Party belief, is that the White Nationalists are speaking at this Convention to not only promote their own ideology but that which the John Birch Society embraces and from which the Tea Party springs, as well.

The official interpretation of the White Nationalists is that it is an intellectual society as well as political that advocates National identity for the white race with subgroups of White separation and White supremacy although they try to play down the supremacy group while in conversation. They use statistics and social science to define their self-conscious white identity. They challenge immigration,civil rights and racial integration, no different from what the Tea Party does.

White people are defined by them to mean people of White European descent with non-Jewish roots. The truth is they are no different from the judges, ministers, and lawyers who use to wear white robes and hoods with the exception that they do not go around burning crosses or killing innocent people.

For those of us who know that the Conservatives claim to be so pro-Israel, we have to question as to why they would tolerate such bigots at their conventions, much less let them speak.

The answer of course is that when Rick Santorum made the comment in Iowa, “we needed to make black people get off welfare and work for their pay check.” he spoke out loud what the Conservatives really say behind closed doors. Only Newt said it out loud in front of the World when he said,”Black youth need to be put to work as janitors in the schools and babysitters at the illegal age of ten. The bigots are gathering to train their subjects.

If the Conservative and Tea Party connections, do not scare us all then those of you who are bigots, all I can say is, I am sorry that you allow yourself to hate because it only destroys you.Many times when we think we are better than someone else that “Karma” will follow us to the point that it will either turn our own children or our grand children against us.

Those of you who think your genealogy will withstand the “white test” could be surprised to find yourself the victim of discriminatory practices, by the time these bigots finish their studies.

There were laws prohibiting marriage in Europe, as well as America. People were not allowed to marry outside of their Class, Religion or Race. This did not prevent couples from falling in love, although it was forbidden by law.

As a result of the lack of effective birth control for women, unlawful pregnancies did occur. If they married or considered marriage, they were put in jails and frequently sentenced to death. Other times they would be hung and beaten by what was known as mob justice or vigilantes. Fathers and husbands had a right to punish their daughters or wives in any manner they saw fit.

The Ku Klux Klan killed Catholics, Jews, and African-Americans, while others looked the other way and denied any knowledge of the same. Bombings of Churches and Synagogues along with homes of families and lawyers, who worked towards civil rights and in defense of the same, were a constant in the South. If they did not seek illegal abortions under duress, then adoptions were sit up that gave the child different backgrounds and a new identity.

The hate that existed amongst races and religions,were more violent because of prosecution today, but the hate being directed towards people of the Muslim religion and against gay marriages, today, is the same, as the bigotry against inter racial marriage was then.

It is government and the laws that prevent the constant and continued violence that they were able to get away with then. The Conservatives and Tea Party have a continued refrain as to the interference of government in our lives, since they believe equality of the races, women, and workers is theirs to determine. In truth, they see us as the”lesser of God’s creatures,”for which the Bible gave them dominance over. They quoted the Bible against inter racial marriages then as they do against gay marriages today.

No one ever spoke of or ever told children, who were conceived out of marriage, that they had been adopted out to other families. Closet secrets were to remain in the closet and anyone who failed to “Honor” the secrets, was usually sent away from the family or made the “Black Sheep” of the community. Other times the community would literally pour hot tar on them and then pour feathers over them, if anyone divulged any truths that were to remain secret. They had many ways to force people to remain silent through acts of humiliations, if anyone was to tell the truth.

If the children were too young to remember the adoption, they grew up never knowing they were adopted but in many cases always longing for something that they felt missing in their lives. The adopted child simply took on the religious beliefs of the family who adopted them along with their nationality or race.This produced many of our ancestors. It was not until 1967 in Pace vs. Alabama, The Supreme Court ruled that inter racial marriages were legal.

At other times, the family who declare European descent, and think their ancestors did not marry or have a family member of a different race forced to produce a child in their family, should reacess their thinking, as it is very rare in America, when a member of our own family was not placed in a compromised position by those who felt entitled to commit injustice against a member of our own family.

All of us have members of our families who would be of questionable descent on their list of “unacceptables”. Men of all nationalities as well as men of white European descent, throughout the world, have forced themselves on women of all races,creed and color since the beginning of time. When these bigots determine who can pass their tests, they go back many generations as what they really are after is dominance of the entire human race.

The attacks on women or on other occasions, the secret affairs by women, have produced children who became our ancestors, even if they did not marry them out right;as a result rare is the family that would not be considered a mixed race family by these bigots. We cannot let the bigots amongst us return us to the 1700′s mentality, with our help.

When they claim, “President OBama is causing Class Warfare.” they are doing nothing more than using diversion tactics in an effort to cover up the truth. It is no different from the tar and feathering of another time in history. By now we should all be aware of their intentions to deny equality to all but the 1%, while President OBama fights on for the best interests of all of us.

When people of different backgrounds and ideas meet to discuss different thoughts,actions, or theories we become the most advanced and strongest in the job market. It is through new inventions and ideas that we lead the World in productivity. This is what has always given us the step-up and advanced us as a Nation over the rest of the World.

Even with our economy, that is slowly recovering, we are still considered the safest Country in the world for other Nations to invest. When we accept the differences that exist in all of us, regardless of race,creed, and color, we also lead the World in the acceptance of morality and human rights.

It has always been the differences between us that stimulates thought and engineering in American Democracy, and has made us the greatest Democracy in the World. To allow these bigots to destroy our acceptance of diversity is no different from if we, ourselves, participate in the destruction of our own Democracy.

I will digress again and offer an update on the Wisconsin recall of Tea Party Governor Scott Walker, as another thing that must never change us back to the mentality that these bigots are suggesting and before Unions were established to protect our rights as workers, is the right for the American worker to receive an honest day’s pay for an honest days’ work.

After the Koch brothers pumped millions of dollars into their efforts to save Scott Walker, the legitimacy of the million signatures that were gathered on the petition to recall him, have been verified and found accurate. It is the largest ever done in history.

Scott Walker’s Pacs are running ads that are filled with lies with the 4 million dollars pumped into his fight to remain in office, from Tea Party interests.

Those who do not know what the problem is, Scott Walker, has been Union busting in the State and has laid off more workers in Wisconsin, than any State in the United States, as well as, set back the teaching staff, to the point Wisconsin schools may never recover.

The up and coming bright star of the Republican Party and Tea Party darling, governor Mitch Daniels, of Indiana is doing the same thing with the Republican majority in his State by passing through, “the right to work laws.” This has also been attempted in Ohio.

The Republicans in Virginia, under the guidance of Bob McDonnell, who is on the A-list as a vice Presidential candidate, have passed through the legislation, a bill that would ban all birth control. They have also passed a bill stating that all women, including rape and incest victims, must be probed by a totally intrusive, sometimes painful, and unnecessary vaginal ultrasound, before abortion can be allowed.This includes women whose lives are endangered by pregnancy.

The legal definition of rape is any unwanted penetration of a person’s body. For the State Republican legislators of Virginia to deny women their Constitutional right to their own body and instead declare it legal to penetrate a woman’s body with a vaginal ultrasound, is nothing more than legalizing rape against women.

All this is unconstitutional and very humiliating and an unnecessary expense for young girls who are victims of rape and only subjects them to another rape as it does all women. It is totally degrading to women’s rights for the State to say it has the right to choose how women’s’ bodies and health will be treated. The Republican majority also passed the”right to work laws that breaks up the Unions so that factories and Corporations can lower wages to the workers, while increasing hours that workers must work.

While the Conservatives all yell,” about too much government,” it is too much of the bigoted Tea Party and Conservatives, who are responsible for our corroding rights, as American citizens, instead. While the Republicans stir up Religious rights being infringed on in Congress, they are only throwing up more smoke screens to deny the right of every woman to make the decision in their own health, in their Doctor’s office.

Government as does Unions,protects the rights of women,minorities, and workers, and that is why they make so many inaccurate statements and complaints about government interference and against Unions, while they themselves totally abuse our rights to choose,to determine our own health issues,lifestyle, earn an income, in a safe working environment, that will provide for our families and maintain our human dignity, because their real interests lies in doing away with both government and Unions that protect us.

Finally then I will close with this; If we do not educate ourself further on the sameness along with the differences between ourself and other ideas,races,political parties,and,religions,we will never truly know ourselves. When we refuse others the right to accept what they have an equal right to we refuse ourselves, as well as the next generations, their rights to earn dignity from a job well done.

Our Forefathers understood that morality could not be legislated. They understood as the rational members amongst us do, that none of the Churches much less mankind itself, would or could ever agree on what rules of morality would apply.

No two Churches in America have yet agreed 100% conclusively on what they determine to be moral. Even inside their own Church there are many extreme interpretations of morality that often lead to splinter groups or Churches breaking away to establish their own Church with their own definition of morality. When they do come close to agreeing they argue over how it should be handled and who will be in charge of determining the rules and administering the same. That argument, with a 70% majority of Tea Party and Conservative membership, has entered the Republican Party and renders them ineffective with agreeing on anything or more importantly, to represent “We the People”.

It is the Tea Party, Conservatives and bigots,once more trying to infringe on the rights of American citizens,while hiding behind Religious Rights, who would do away with the Equal rights Amendment along with decisions of the Supreme Court and our Constitution that protects us all.

European descent means nothing to how we live, it is how we think, feel,act towards others, and accept other people, who are different from ourselves, that says it all.Ignorance is always at the key root of bigotry and hate, and often followed by greed. Once we learn about others we learn more about ourselves. If we vote in ignorance then every member of our own family will pay for the mistake we make in November, generations after us.

Good luck in your studies, if you are ready to let go of the your own misconceptions. I hope so for your sake that you will take this advice that I offer. Usually I don’t offer advice to others but in this case I will make an exception as I want all my readers, along with our neighbors and fellow citizens, to know the pure joy of acceptance of the equal rights of every American citizen.

Under my own logo I totally discourage taking advice from others who are unfamiliar with our own feelings and circumstances so it is a true contradiction for me to offer it, otherwise. Orson Welles said it best when he said,”Giving good advice is utterly pointless as the wise do not need it and the stupid do not listen;” with that I wish you all a friendly week-end everyone. Don’t forget to hug someone or a pet.

UPDATE: Mitt Romney was the winner of the straw poll but only because his group bought votes. Just another prime example of politics at it’s worse.

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How Much Do We Need To Know?

I was watching a cable network show the other day, and the question asked of the viewing public was,”When will the government tell us the truth about the Iraq War?”,there were a various number of answers and of course the ever stupid one blaming OBama, but in truth just how much do we need to know?

Those of us who do not bore ourselves with research,read, or study foreign policy probably did not understand that British Petroleum owns 66% of Iraq oil rights and American Corporations owns 18% with Iraq having more oil than, any Country in the Middle East. American oil reserves were at one of the lowest if not the lowest before we went into Iraq. Since we had sanctions against Saddam Hussein he was refusing or making it difficult at least for British Petroleum and American oil companies to get their oil out to the refineries.

Cheney served on the board of Halliburton for years, before becoming Vice President and I believe history will show that he spear-headed the movement into Iraq and the war as plenty have indicated the same. Once an oil man always an oil man is fairly common as with most other occupations. Our other allies did not go to war with us because it was a commerce problem not a problem for war.The American people as well as members of the military, Congress and the Senate were incorrectly led to believe that Saddam had weapons of mass destruction and when none were found just as the people on the ground, whose job it was to report back to the U.N., had told the United Nations previously before our going to war, then the people were lied to and told they had faulty information.

Since I did know this,as I regularly check out foreign policy.gov, and I believe that oil is no excuse to go to war, I was very much against the war in Iraq. I believe unless the people or our allies ask us for help, as the Libya people did, we should remain neutral other than when we are attacked on our soil or the soil of our allies or for humane reasons when we are asked to intercede.

America was very much justified to go into Afghanistan and Pakistan,once we had been attacked as we were by Osama Ben Laden. I believe we are justified, to enter any country to eliminate him. I am neither a Pacifist or a Hawk, but I do believe that America should and does have a right to eliminate injustice when asked by those who need our help, since we have the most superior of all military in the World. However after once entering and they feel confidant to continue as Iraq did, we do need to leave when they ask us to. Many times communications or sanctions can solve more than war, and we owe it to our young men and women to open up communications before going to war.

Although I would never advocate that the American voter bury their heads in the sand, or not educate themselves, before going to the polls to vote on the candidates, who do run for office, a great deal of American interests does need to remain in secret in order to better protect our own shores from terrorism,to safeguard our military personnel over-seas, and to serve Democracy. It is no different from a drug bust ever being made, a murder solved, a chop-shop broken up or any crime solved, if the press and criminals were all aware of what the authorities were doing.

The important thing is that our military, regardless of what they were told, fought with honor and after leaving Kuwait today, will all be home, with the exception of 160 troops who are still training the Iraqi troops and those who will remain to protect our Embassy, in Iraq. We need to understand that those who have and are coming home, in so many ways, their war is still going on and may continue doing so for years, while they battle against both physical and emotional wounds. Their families who are making the adjustments and who sacrificed right along with them, will learn as all war families do, that a different person from whom they knew, has returned home. We Americans must never forget their sacrifice when or if the legislatures try to dismiss the long-term care that many will need and have earned.

Our men and women fought with honor, in many cases, to save and spare their own comrades while the great majority of we Americans went on with our lives. It is now time that we rise to the occasion of meeting their needs. We all must remember that 1/3 of our homeless are military vets, when we take umbrage with the poor, and fight for them, when they can no longer fight for themselves.

Before you accuse me of seeing UFO’s and or The Loch Ness Monster, since the Day of the Trojan Horse, much of what has been told to the people, is not always as is, when it comes to matters of war. Even the Civil War began as a war over secession over high tariffs charged by the North to the South and later changed to a war over slavery.For those who think the movies resemble war-time then we all need to reassess reality. There has been much conversation, about the drone that was lost by the CIA into Iran. So much of espionage looks different to the civilian population than it does to those who do know exactly what they are doing.

Because the press sometimes keeps us too well-informed, I can simply say, if I was Iran, I would at least take the smirk off of my face if not consider destroying it, rather than risk the fact that it wasn’t a deliberate “Oops” moment. Do we even know if it is fully equipped or with what or was it set down to mislead? It would not be the first spy plane, that was set down to mislead those we were at war with. I acknowledge that it also may not be anything less than reported, but we too quickly want to believe the worse in the news about OBama or are too quick to accept the spin doctors who promote or pay for the lies that we hear, instead of realizing none of us know a damn thing, if we do not ever question what we read or hear.

A good example of what is currently being reported as fact is that the Republicans are expounding and that is that the Keystone pipeline will produce 20,000 jobs and not cause the American tax payers anything. The truth is the Company itself as well as Cornell University, who makes a point of checking the facts out, says it will produce 6500 part-time jobs and lead to 50 permanent jobs while the Republicans continue to hold up the tax break to the middle class tax payers, without the Keystone Pipeline included.

I think it does us all well to remember:”that a great deal of what we don’t know, does not hurt us,” when we are ignorant of those who do protect our best interest in the World. The inter-net along with some establishment owned networks, some cable television news,radio air ways and print owned by Murdoch and the establishment make it a habit to spin the truth to those of us who would remain better off not knowing their brand of so-called truth. Let’s face it,most of all the lies we hear, even when it is not on the inter-net,media, newsprint or from a politician, do come from an insecurity complex or a narcissist, or an ego or the establishment. As teenagers we seem to know this and sadly, as adults we resign ourselves to accepting it,or worse yet, go into denial and believe the lies.

What we all need to remember is just where our priorities should be and what we should make a point to know and that is during this Christmas, or if you prefer Holiday Season, our goals need to be “Goodwill towards our fellow-man, woman and child,who are in need and or suffering whether it be our own family or our neighbors, and especially that our thoughts and prayers go out to all of our military families.”

I will use this medium to tell all military families.”Thanks to you all” for your service and sacrifices for us, and speaking for myself,I greatly appreciate your heroism, even though I was against the reason we went to war, I am capable of admitting that I was wrong, when I hear about the dreadful treatment suffered by the people under Saddam Hussein.

I just like some of you,would have felt better about the sacrifices you were asked to make, if America had gone to war for humane reasons or if the Iraqi people had asked us to come in, and without the lie of weapons. I have lived enough years to know that even when life may look its darkest or the reasoning behind it is not always sound, more times than not, another door will open and flood brightly with light on the justice of it all. It will all make sense with time, when the press stops reporting the negatives and lies against Obama being weak, and catches on to the protection Iraq will have as an ally of America. War is hell and rare has it been when the troops left, they did not feel the quilt of leaving behind the misplaced people.

The possibility of having a new ally sitting between Israel and Iran, not to mention getting rid of a cruel dictator, is already telling us your time was worth much more than perhaps you can now appreciate, as you gave us more than any of us dared hope for more than a decade ago when Saddam Hussein turned against America, after we set him up with technology and weapons. The potential for a civil war looms great, and I ask patience of us all, while the Kurds, Sunni and Shiites fight for supremacy, as I know it will be hard on the Iraqi people and require more sacrifice on their part, as well. Once there is a victor, then we will begin to see your sacrifices recognized, right along with theirs’.

Once trade opens up between our two Countries and the American people see our economy turn around because Corporations will be forced into hiring back the workers out of need to produce, as we join with our ally in shared interest of rebuilding Iraq and bringing security back to the Iraqi people, then your efforts will become a part of the history you sacrificed for, and the naysayers will know just how much you did contribute to the American welfare, on the back of your own suffering. What the politicians could not accomplish you will accomplish and we will all be better Blessed for your sacrifices.

I am confident that we learned our lessons from what happened with Saddam Hussein and have another chance to be more firm, observant and ever watchful, thanks to your sacrifices. Never forget,” your second wind.” as those of us who care, respect you when you lose sight of it. God Bless you all and again, Thanks! Welcome home where you belong!

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It Is What It Is

Yesterday when the Senator from California said it made as much sense to hold all of the Muslim Faith responsible for the Taliban as it does to hold the 700 Club responsible for the Aryan Nation, or words to that effect, the Representative of Florida Family Ass. started spouting off against the Senator infringing on religion’s constitutional rights. Before this he was justifying his groups right to put pressure on Lowes to withdraw their ads on the All American Muslims show while bragging about having effectively stopped Home Depot from doing the same.

Lets make something perfectly clear:In America wrong is wrong. If you are a member of the Westboro Baptist Church showing up at a trial to defend the murder’s right to kill a gay person or to protest your hate at the funerals of military war heroes, you will be listed on the hate crime list. No one in America is above the law when it comes to promoting hate or when it comes to promoting murder anymore than they are when they promote bigotry. The Aryan Nation sadly is not the only radical Christian religion that has killed and promotes White Supremacy or hate. No one religion has a Constitutional right to be protected against the truth when they promote and break the law against separation of Church and State.

What the Constitution does say is that Religion cannot promote one political candidate over another and that Churches clearly cannot enter into the political arena. Because some Churches set up other groups to promote their views, they claim not to be advising their congregations on who to vote for. Instead they use other areas such as film,videos, and documentaries that are expressly and purposely made to represent their views while telling them anything else they read or hear is a lie or they will use groups to promote the wishes of the Churches, in some cases, and other times they do preach from the pulpit the danger of risking one’s soul, if they do not vote for the Republican candidate and if they are not pro-life over a woman’s right to choose by law.

The law of separation of Church and State has flagrantly been broken and abused by Religion in the process of elections; Not to mention the transgression of their members’ civil rights. The Constitution specifically spells out that no Church can influence or otherwise act on, the way it’s members vote in the political process. What makes our Constitution so special is that it is clear that the law precedes and protects the Individual rights over all other groups or organizations.

If religion feels they are being unfairly attacked then they should do something about preventing the image and example that they themselves are establishing in America. No one gets to take advantage of the law or Constitution to strengthen their own views at an expense to others’ Constitutional rights, even if they think they can use God’s law against man’s law.

When we hear about religion being under attack it is because they are bringing it upon themselves by feeling, in most cases, they have a right and duty to speak out because God’s law is superior to man’s law, but when others report that they are breaking the law of the Constitution by interfering in elections or the civil rights of other Americans, then they scream discrimination against religious rights. To accuse Lowes of promoting terrorism and to attack the program American Muslims is very typical of these extremists who are interfering with the rights of all minorities.

If it was just a matter of speaking out for their candidates it would be bad enough, but the fact that they are given freedom from taxation and then put many millions of dollars into campaigning for their own views, it then becomes a gross over-step of the Constitution on their part.

At no time does the Constitution allow anyone group to break the law. I repeat:”No one is above the law in America” and when they show stupidity, bigotry, hate, or infringe on the rights of other American’s Constitutional rights with threats or fear tactics,it is and should be reported.

I applaud TLC for trying to bring clarity to what the Muslim Religion really is but as long as we have groups trying to teach their own brand of stupidity and hate in America, with threats, it is always going to be an uphill battle to stop this brand of propaganda and misguided mentality. Unless we do move to stop it with stronger legislation against this type of hate sadly,”It is what it is.”

The majority of, we Christians, do understand that hate does not have room in our hearts if we do call ourselves Christian and as such we deplore and work towards stopping the hate and bigotry that we do acknowledge exists in America, even if it is only one person at a time. The “skirt will win out over the pants”, or if you prefer “the brooms over the bats”,or since we have room to include both genders we can also say,” the real over the hypocrites”, as we work towards disenfranchising the hateful amongst us. When those who hate learn acceptance of the diversity in America and the value it brings to our Democracy then we will all begin living the Democracy all Americans have a right to live.
Re-elect OBama who has worked tirelessly for Democracy and the American middleclass, even though it has not always been popular with those who would defeat him, in 2012.

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The Risk Within

I have written many posts, at this point, on taking responsibility. My intention is to express to all, what we often find as fault or blame in others, can actually be as a result of a short coming, within ourselves.

I do not blame the victims or believe that anyone who is being mistreated should ever feel it is their fault. I simply want people to question,themselves, why they do tolerate such behavior and to find what changes they can make,to improve their own lives. Too often we never do ask ourselves what it is we can do or need to do, to improve our own lives. It is always easier to blame others than it is to look for or find solutions for ourselves.

As difficult as it is to accept,for some, the truth is that too many times we do become no different from robots, who go about our daily lives never questioning those who are controlling us or ourselves, if we have a strong urgency to control others, who do fine, without our need to control. We can become apathetic,indifferent,a bully, or too complacent or trusting with the people and power of the World that goes on around us, just as we can with ourselves.

If we simply follow routine, that we have slipped into and take programming from others in our lives, we can often wake up to discover, when the relationship ends, that we have taken too many people in our lives for granted or accepted too poor of a treatment,for ourselves.

As long as we insist that we do not care for politics or feel a need to vote, because we incorrectly think both parties are just alike,or we give our vote to another, without thought, we can often end up to discover the party that protects oil companies and big business is the same that allows Democracy to erode. We must always remember, for instance, that oil companies will and do control the politics of States where oil is King, such as Wyoming,Oklahoma and Texas.No different than what tourism is to Disneyland or Disney World.

If our daily life, ends up with our free time being limited by other’s recommendations or dedicated to the inter-net, some television and radio broadcasts that are not concerned with the truth or the news, but instead report slanted views, and we believe the lies that are often spread through the social media and paid ads, we can too often, end up believing lies over truth, not to mention, without having an original thought of our own.

Without educating ourselves, to the reality and truth over perceptions, the knowledge of which party or candidate will do the best job for us and the middle class,will be lost in ignorance or lies, when we do go to the polls and vote. When this happens it is sometimes ourselves, who are the most ill-equipped to vote,not to mention the most dangerous to Democracy.

It is easy to get caught up in our day-to-day habits and routine, to the point that we become lost to ourselves or perform as robots,never questioning the reality of what we are doing or hearing. The longer we do it the more accepting we become of things that do not make sense, when questioned.

It is not something that we are always aware of, in fact most of us do not even have a clue, until we do have trauma take place in our lives, and it forces us into acknowledging what we have accepted as truth, without questioning, a great deal of the time was merely perception, and does not even come close to being the truth.A for instance of that is, we commonly think modern medicine can cure anything until we get seriously ill, and the great majority of us are surprised at how little medicine does know about cause much less cure. Too many times, our own survival will depend on us being more honest and realistic, when dealing with our own lives.

We cannot blame those who we turned over control of our lives to, simply because we were taking comfort in our own lifestyle or stressing over what had very little real significance,in comparison to where our priorities needed to be, in our own lives, much less in the Democracy of America. We need to remain alert to both past and present history, both in ourselves and our own behavior, as well as in the world, that goes on around us.

I doubt, many of us would or could argue, that if we showed as little interests in our jobs or our families, who we have been Blessed with to guide, as we do in the maintenance of Democracy, we would not be at our current job or a reputable member of our family, for long.

Just as we need to stay on our toes, when it comes to the needs of our friends and family, we also need to be aware of how our own behavior affects those we profess to love, as well as, what happens in the World around us. When we fail to keep up with ourselves and our own needs and behavior, we often fail to keep up with the needs of those around us, as well.

We need to be comfortable in the knowledge, we gain, that our own vote just as our own behavior, can and will safeguard the equality as well as the quality of life for all of us, who do embrace freedom. If we fail to appreciate that those we love the most, ourselves included, can be a statistic tomorrow, we often risk the fact that we will deny our own freedom, when others start talking about changing the Constitution to deny others their rights.

It is too easy to think that as long as we are not complaining then those that we love do not have complaints either. If we are busy shopping and hiding the receipts from our spouses, we fail to realize the short high, that we receive, is often the long misery that they receive, when it comes to balancing the budget.

When we constantly sacrifice while our spouse spends or does nothing but argue with us or dismiss our efforts, we are not so content either.Just as we cannot continue to elect politicians who refuse to do anything for the American people, because the other Party may win. We can too many times go back to the fox guarding the hen-house when we refuse to educate ourselves, both in the future needs of our families as well as our Country.

When we all develop the attitude that we, each, are much more than a robot and the risk of both our family as well as American’s Democracy rests on the shoulders of individuals, we will prove we are all reliable to the rest of the World.We owe all those, who look to us for freedom, the responsibility of maintaining Democracy, by putting as much effort into, “Freedom for All”, as we do into our own families.

It needs to be both our goal as well as our priority to know the differences between each candidate and party,including the Tea Party, before we vote. Democracy as well as the survival of our government,of “We the People,” in America and around the World, depends on it.

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It’s Not You,It’s Me

“It’s not you, it’s me,” is the biggest break up line that is used or heard, by all of us, who are in and out of relationships.More times than not, there is a great deal of truth to it, and we ourselves, are totally confused as to why this relationship,that we had so many hopes for, has failed.Other times, we/they knew it was doomed from the start and the words “It’s not you, it’s me” often are used to let someone we/they have dated or been with,for a while, down easy. It is equal to,”can we still be friends?”

When we understand there is more truth to it than not, we will be wise to examine ourselves to discover why it is that we cannot commit or are willing to settle for less than what we deserve. If that is not the problem, it is quite possible our alarms were going off and it is a good thing we got out of the relationship.

Other times we/they were just stringing us/them along, because we/they were lonely and had hopes that,maybe, if we/they gave us/them a chance, something could work out. Other times, we/they may be fearful of the aggression or anger in us/them, so we/they try to spare ourselves or themselves from the anger, as well.

If you follow or read my posts then you understand that I always encourage ourselves to take responsibility for the role we play in relationships.I do not do that because I feel we are always wrong or at fault. I do that because it is so much easier to deal with pain and heal from it, once we understand that not all relationships are meant to last, and we understand our own motives.If we are looking for less than what we establish as our goals, or have placed the bar so high as to be unattainable for any human to achieve,we need to know both about ourselves,first.

Many times people are placed in our lives to teach us and to learn from them, so we quit repeating the same mistakes over and over again, and unless we evaluate ourselves, as to why we keep inviting the same type of person into our lives, we will never change the pattern.

It is hard enough to be betrayed or hurt once by someone without allowing them to hurt us over and over again, because we end up hating them and obsessing over it, for months or sometimes years. Each time we express hate and anger towards another we hurt ourselves one more time, because we fail to realize that it is many times ourselves, who we are angry at, since we were warned or recognized something was wrong, but ignored the warnings anyway.

We often feel we can handle the problem or allow others to mistreat us, and then later become upset at ourselves, because we find that it was a far greater problem than what we were prepared to deal with.By harboring hate against another, we many times harbor unrest against ourselves,as well.

When we do this,especially when it is the father or mother of our child or children, those who are the closest to us more times than not, are hurt by our obsessing as well.All the ranting and raving that we are doing is teaching our children that people of the other gender, will hurt us,so therefore they can’t trust anyone to the point that they will find they are going into relationships looking for and finding fault,many times, where fault does not even exist.

Too often, both we and they will dismiss relationships that are with honorable people because we/they go looking for the jerks since we have taught them as well as ourselves, that every one of the opposite gender, is a jerk or a bitch anyway, so we might as well let these people into our lives. Other times they will choose these people, looking for the love they felt they lost out on with their absent parents. Other times we and they will sell themselves or ourselves short, thinking they or we are damaged goods, and do not deserve any better.

We often hear people ask,”Do I have a jerk magnate attached somewhere?” If we are opposite of the person who does not learn to trust and are too trustworthy,the answer is sometimes,” yes,”and can be comparable to those who fail to trust.

The thing a jerk looks for, in their next relationship, is how easy we are to con or manipulate.If we are afraid of hurting other people’s feelings it will stand out as a “sore thumb”, to those who are only looking for someone to believe their bag of lies,hard luck stories, or they are planning on using us. Many women as well as men will check out our financial status before and then pretend to bump into us, when it has been planned from the beginning.

Other times we may be the type of person who responds well to having our ego stroked or to romance. They will pick up on that as well and flood us with compliments and roses followed by candle lit dinners. Other times they are only looking for the thrill of the challenge and will disappear once they can add another notch to their belts.

The reality of life is that not all people are nice people. Many are narcissists either giving the appearance of or living financially successful lives, because they are experts at getting what they want for themselves. Others will betray us,while others seek out the vulnerable to use, so they never have to work a day in their lives. Sometimes they are very charming and good-looking and can peel the clothes right off of us, but it does not change the fact that their motives are deceitful.

Not all people are deliberately devious,on the other hand,either. In many cases people simply do not learn common courtesy and are insensitive by nature, because they have not been exposed to living any differently.Many a husband or wife has had to provide what was missing in the life of their spouse, due to the lack of direction or maturity in taking responsibility, prior to meeting them.

We cannot provide them with what we think is/was missing, however, unless they recognize they need help and wish us to. We can only offer guidance according to the needs and understanding of both people co-operating. We will not fix or control them to get our own needs met or to force our parent’s idea of what works, on them, without having disastrous results.

Since neither we or our spouse are our parents or their parents,but instead two separate individuals, we need to establish a more amenable set of rules, to be able to conform to the new awareness of our generation, for our own sake and that of our children.If one of us came from an overly strict household where another came from a home that allowed more self-expression, then we need to reach an agreement on what rules to keep or which to discard.

We need to compete with the current generation in which we live by determining the mixture of morality from both of our homes, that we both agree to keep as a couple.Every couple needs to agree on and establish their own value system in order to keep confusion out of the lives of their children.

To go into a relationship,thinking differently, when we neither know who we are or if our own parenting reasoning is sound, often means that we will not know if what we find lacking or missing in them, is not our own interpretation, when in truth, they are the better prepared to help us, if we do not understand ourselves.It takes mutual respect of both our differences as well as our likes along with the person we are or are meant to be, to determine what will work best in any relationship. It is when we make demands on another to be someone they are not, we need to take responsibility for our own mistakes.

When we understand the differences, because we are better grounded ourselves,we will be able to distinguish between the naive,the confused and the deliberate, unless we come from a similar background.If neither of us have been taught morality then we need to establish a new set of rules. In that case we may both be helped by tuning in more to our own short comings and changing that part of ourselves in an effort to teach our children the importance of character. Compassion and empathy for each other, or the lack of it, will usually show through and are hard to disguise, long-term.If we cannot offer both we will usually find that both will be slow to be returned to us.

If we all know and understand ourselves first, then we will know the difference between what makes us respond or react. When our feelings are mixed up and confused then we need to use our common sense and reasoning.Common sense will tell us if we are confused when we do not refuse to listen to it.

No one human being has not been hurt as a result of making assumptions that were wrong when it comes to matters of the heart.We are not different or unique or stupid in doing the same. It does us no good to get down on ourselves when we do make a mistake,but we do need to learn from our mistakes by dealing with ourselves. Sometimes we will need to talk to someone who has been where we are and who can help us reason more clearly.We need to avoid those who we know are not good for us instead of seeking them out.

I am tired of seeing the true losers in life, destroy good people who are sometimes at the wrong place at the wrong time. Any time we are vulnerable because we have not allowed ourselves to grieve from the lost of a loved one,our health, or income, then we need to be exceptionally careful before making rash decisions.

When we understand our own strength and weaknesses, then we will understand where and when we need to protect ourselves and forget about hurting the feelings of those who have ulterior motives. When we do we will recognize those who operate on both payback as well as their own agendas only.

Unless we can get rid of the false bravado that too many of us carry, that it will never happen to us, because we are too smart, we will not learn to trust our own instincts. By understanding that bad things can happen to good people, we will take the blame off of ourselves and instead accept that we were unprepared but will make certain we will not repeat the same mistakes again.

Too many times it is as simple as our being in the wrong place at the wrong time emotionally or mentally,because we were not prepared or did not even know there would be risk. My posts are about learning that we can trust, once we trust the fact that we have prepared ourselves through knowledge of ourselves instead of wasting time blaming others.

Unless we take full responsibility for our own self as well as our own behavior, from rising in the morning to retiring at night, we leave a door open for jerks to enter. We will commonly know someone else’s girlfriend or boyfriend are a real bitch or jerk, because many times we spend too much of our time judging them or evaluating our friend’s relationships, when this time would be better spent on evaluating ourselves.

Nothing protects or gives back more than learning our own strengths and weaknesses.Knowledge will teach us to strengthen our weaknesses, while letting up on our paranoia. Life and dating should always be about loving and enjoying because we can trust our own motives, as well as our own choices.

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