It always gives me reason for pause,when I hear the general attitude of the work force spouting about the stay at home Moms being both under-educated and lazy. At the same time,very little is being said about momma’s lazy son or sons.
As I have said in previous blogs, stay at home Mom’s are working harder than a lot of women that hold down jobs. They actually are helping run communities without pay. More than a few will take, the experience that they have learned, to set up and run their own businesses, network, or to go back to the work field,once their children are in school and capable of being home, alone, after school. I do not include these women in this blog and am in total agreement with Oprah Winfrey, when she says, “They have the hardest jobs of all.”
Sons and daughters on the other hand, that are well into their 20′s, and are still living at home taking, as few credit hours as possible, with Mom doing their laundry and Dad and Mom providing a roof over their heads,and feeding them, make most of us either concerned or disgusted. You, are or soon will become,the failures of Society. Some do not even pretend to be working or going to school while others put on the pretense of doing both. They stay home all day and do nothing but play nintendo/wii or sit on computers, hang in bars or party with other lazy adults, sleep way past noon, or go shopping with Moms/Dad’s credit cards and in some cases, are drug addicts. No matter how much you try to convince yourselves, Moms and Dads, that they are just taking time to find themselves, this is not normal behavior. I repeat: this is not normal behavior!
We do have a group of women, as well, that once their children are packed off to school, they spend the rest of their days, shopping until they drop, tanning, getting their nails done and attending spas for facials,body wraps,and massages, and meeting for lunch if not on a daily basis then at least 3 times a week. They sneak home clothing and other items and hide it in various places,so their husbands, naively, believe that they have been working all day. Many times their credit is destroyed and the bills, like rent,house payment and utilities, that their husbands think are being paid , are going ignored.
Their medicine chests are full of prescription drugs, that typical lead to their own childrens’ addictions. Also husbands that are using their wives/girlfriends to support them, as there are nothing but jobs, “that are beneath”, their great talent, or they lie about doing job interviews, while they sit in parks,or go to golf courses, bars and casinos, with no intentions of job hunting.
This then is intended for you, as you know who you are. We are tired of carrying you. If Mom and Dad or husbands and wives have the inability to say “No” or want to lie to themselves to cover their own involvement, it does not give them or you the right to pass your laziness off on the rest of us, in form of added weight to our already stressed incomes.
We the tax payers, as well as the consumers, pay increasingly more as a result of your slothfulness and laziness. Everytime you refuse to enter the work force, there are fewer tax payers to help pay, and everytime you destroy your credit, the rest of us are having to make up for it, in increased interests rates. You, are all, usually a member of the middle to upper class that have been granted, in your lifetimes, far more priviledges than those of us that are paying more as a result of you doing, nothing.
As disgusted as we are with you, I have a tough time of understanding, WHY you feel so entitled? If you want to play, “little Miss Priss”, or “I am just waiting for the job” that is better qualified for my great talents”, and you have the money to do so, then that is your business, to do so, even though prissy went out with the dinosaurs,and strikes the majority of us, as a very shallow way to live.
The same is true about the daughters and sons staying at home with parent’s permission, even though it is one of the worse kinds of abuse, to spoil and teach you children, that they have no responsibility towards themselves or others beyond what they look like. It is also very unkind of all of you to think that the rest of us are living that way as well! Do you really think that they don’t have a higher instance of moving on to crime and that Society will not end up paying for them the rest of their lives?
On the other hand, if you/they suffer from depression or alcoholism, or are drug addicts and have been trying to get off the drugs alone, tell someone. These problems are in every neighborhood in every city as well as rural areas (especially from meth and alcohol) Dad,Mom, husbands and wives WAKE UP! Get out of denial before you make your own problems, worse than your loved ones’ problems already are. Denial, itself, has been known to play a greater hardship in family destruction, over the addictions that afflict your families. You, yourself, could be so close to losing touch of reality, as well as the roof over your heads, by remaining in denial. I understand that they are and can be very manipulative, but there are signs, that you do know, that you are denying to yourselves. Do an intervention before it gets worse, if they won’t co-operate with you!
Those of us that know people like this, also must play a role,in reporting them as a danger to our own safety and well being, even if they do end up, never speaking to us again. Many are breaking the law and it is not their choice, to pick and choose, which ones they can break, at a cost to the rest of us. Despite, what the Churches and right wing ,would have us believe, people suffering through these types of lifestyles, play a far GREATER role in the destruction of family and Society, than what granting minorities,women, or gays who only ask for their entitled equal rights, ever will!
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